Shrimper/War Veteran contemplates losing kids after losing everything else -- Wife says "He's taking this harder than he took Iraq, and he was at death's door" (AUDIO)

One story from one family from one part of the Gulf Coast -- Bayou La Batre, Alabama

BP Oil Well Capped, But Trauma Still Flowing, Morning Edition by Debbie Elliott and Marisa Peñaloza, November 30, 2010:

Transcript Excerpts

Feed the Children

"We're out. We only had 800 cards and 800 boxes of groceries," a [Feed the Children] volunteer gently tells those without tickets for the day's goods. ...

No one makes a scene. This is not a place where asking for help comes easily.

"It almost makes you not even want to walk up and ask," says Lena Hofer, 25. "Because of how many times I've had to do this, it's really hard when they send you away after you do, especially when you need it like I do. I'm about to cry. It's hard."

On the Edge

"We are very, very close on the edge of losing everything," says Aaron Hofer, Lena's husband, holding back tears. "But, you know, God feeds the birds. How much more does he love us? I have to tell myself that, like, 100 times a day." ...

Aaron, 27, is a fourth-generation shrimper who lost the lucrative summer season to the BP oil spill. Now the shop where he worked part time picking crab for cash has closed down. The Hofers can no longer pay the rent, have signed up for food stamps, and are bouncing from home to home, staying with relatives.

"It's taken a toll on us. We've split up twice since this happened," Lena says. "We're just now starting to talk and get back together. Because we've lost our place to live, we have lost our vehicle, we have lost our phones." ...

"I lost my job, the boat's broke down," he says. "I'm homeless, my wife is living with my mother-in-law, and I'm living on the boat."

The Children

They've lost everything but their children. ...

The pain is raw in Aaron Hofer when he talks about his boys.

"If somebody takes my kids because I can't help myself — I just, I don't know," he says. "It's hard to think about things like that." ...

Since the Hofers lost everything... "They stress out," she says. Her 2-year-old has started biting his fingernails. "And he holds his ears whenever just the stress of life come up. Because he don't even want to hear it, you know, and he's 2. He understands too much."

Harder than Iraq

Aaron Hofer is an Iraq war veteran... His wife says she hardly recognizes the "dog-faced soldier" who never used to let anything get him down.

"He's taking this harder than he took Iraq — and he was at death's door every day over there," she says. "And because of him not being able to make it up out of this rut, it's just taking him down further and further. We have problems. We fight."

That didn't happen before, she says.

Tears rolling down his cheeks, Aaron recalls a recent breakdown: "Oh lord, three weeks ago I had an outburst. I don't know where it came from. I yelled at my wife, her mother. I ended up busting a window."

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8 comments to Shrimper/War Veteran contemplates losing kids after losing everything else -- Wife says "He's taking this harder than he took Iraq, and he was at death's door" (AUDIO)

  • It's so painful to read about Aaron Hofer and his family -- as well as all others, who do not deserve to live in their difficult circumstances. The catastrophe was produced by BP negligence and it's purposeful recklessness.

    I hope he will also accept financial assistance from the Department of Human Services during these difficult times: It will keep him and his family going until BP agrees to settle for a few million dollars for him and his family: be careful with accepting just anything from BP; taxes could take over 1/3rd and a lawyer will accept whatever he can get *above* reasonable.


    Why are BP advertisements -- and singing it's own praises, allowed to run on this website? Just wondering; is it *free speech* or BP kicking-the-life-out-of-us?

  • soozla

    BP buying ads here? lol
    Saves time keeping up with the garbage they put out.

  • xdrfox

    Where is that boys father ?

  • xdrfox

    Where is that boys Goverment ?

  • Tammy

    My heart goes out to all the people/wildlife affected by the oil spill. It may have been an "accident" but it is also a CRIME against humanity-and the EARTH that sustains ALL LIFE. The toxic residues will carry on for many generations. Chemicals are nothing but HARMFUL and should be outlawed, especially when there are natural alternatives. I hope we all learn something from this horrible tragedy. Personally, i will NEVER support any off-shore drilling! It's too risky and not worth it.

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